Choose your partner carefully, because from this decision you will have either happiness or misery. The first thing to bear in mind when you choose a partner is that you are choosing many things: your intimate partner; your talking buddy; your eating companion; your parenting partner; your career counselor; your travel, leisure, and retirement friend; and someone you will see when you are in your best and bad moods. Being aware of that is like being aware of what you want to go into, and it will serve as a guide in any decision you want to take. You can use these ten-point checks to make your choice:

Physical attributes of your prospective partner

You cannot make the right choice if you do not know what you want. Knowledge of what you want will enable you judge correctly when you see what you do not want. Ask yourself, how do I want my partner to look? If you can answer this simple question correctly, then you will be one step closer to what you really want. Do not choose one whose physical attributes do not meet your specification, unless one has other good qualities which can compensate for that. How can you know that one has good qualities when your focus here is on vetting one’s physical attributes if they appeal to you?

4 responses to “CHOOSING A PARTNER (POST 2)

  1. Is it possible to put too much emphasis on physical attributes in the quest for seeking the ideal physique in a mate? How can you ensure you do not diminish your partner if he or she is not in the best shape?

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    • Yes, it is possible to put too much emphasis on physical attributes in the quest for seeking the ideal physique in a mate but wrong to consider it alone because there are other important qualities to analyze as well.

      Your physical qualities are like your everyday makeup which can either make you look presentable or distasteful. The things people know about you, even before they know how you talk, are your physical qualities. These qualities can attract or distract them from having anything intimate with you. Your potential partner will feel fulfilled and proud to do something with you when you look presentable than when you are not.

      In my book “I Know Why You Broke Up with your Spouse” I called it the physical test. The eyes must first eat before the heart can feel it. The chances that your heart will accept something is high if it is pleasing to you. Once you see anything good, the first thing that goes through your mind is that it looks good; you like it and will like to have it. The good thing about having something you like is that you will like to preserve it, nurture it, pamper it, and even find it difficult to throw it away. In doing all that, you might be attached to that thing emotionally and fall in love with it without knowing, by realizing its usefulness to you. The fact is that likeness comes before true love.

      How can you ensure you do not diminish your partner if he or she is not in the best shape? By using the word “partner” it means you have made your choice. You can do that perfectly only when you are in love with him or her. If you do not love your partner, the way he or she looks will always put you off because you are not fulfilled. Your attitude will affect your partner no matter how you try to hide it. The love you have for your partner will give you the strength to support him or her in any way possible when he or she is not in the best shape. Recommending good exercises, a good gym, or other non-drug therapies, will help a long way to put him or her in the right shape. However, the best healing support you can give is by being there for him or her always. Ensure that you make him or her feel secure in public, by not being shy of him or her. Finally, don’t bully him or her verbally, or in any other way, using his or her plight. Be a loving partner once you have made your choice.

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