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“Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.”
I love this quote because you may not do wrong to anyone if you love everyone.
This post is in response to the daily prompt: Quote Me
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Choosing A Partner (The Anchor)-POST 9
Sources of Attraction (The Anchor)
Use this point for your final check after you have considered all the positive qualities your prospective spouse possesses. Ask yourself several questions:
Why are you attracted to your prospective spouse?
Is there any source of attraction?
You must answer these questions first before you can tell if there is headway in starting a future with your prospective spouse. You can do this by enumerating them. Consider one’s charm, cleanliness, motivations, strengths and abilities. These qualities will give you something to anchor on daily if they appeal to you. You must anchor on something in your prospective partner, if not you will not bond together. But what you anchor on must obey two major rules:
- It must not be need-driven. Don’t choose your spouse based on the fact that you have a need and he or she would meet them for you. For instance, needs like we can have children together, he will be a great father, she will be a great mother, she cooks for me, he has money to spend on me, she is presentable, he is great in bed, and he is ready for marriage. Problem starts after a few years when the excitements of getting your needs met have worn off because you already had them, since what happens afterwards in your marriage will be boring.
- Don’t let it define your future. The tendency that you will be a source of problem to your spouse is high if you rest all your future growth on whatever your spouse has because you might be disappointed and become a different person when the things are not there anymore.
