Love is the only truth that comes alive if what two people share is able to make them inseparable. This love is like a thin layer of cement put between two blocks to make them have a lasting connection. If cement needs water and sand to bind effectively, love needs devotion and respect to nurture intimacy between two partners. Just like the cement, love needs time to exhibit its full effect. Two people cannot start an affair today and claim they are in love today because they may be dealing with lust. Until two people have spent so much time together to be able to understand each other’s dos and don’ts, they are still far away from loving each other.
Consequently, the idea that two people may start a relationship because of “love-at-first-sight” only means that they approved of each other’s physical attributes, not that they fell in love with each other. Of the aforementioned ten-point checks, physical attributes of one’s potential partner have indeed the strongest tendency to fulfill spontaneously what one desires for in a relationship. So, be careful not to choose your spouse based on only one of the ten-point checks because you may be in for a big surprise which may make you live miserably for a long time.
Lust in a love affair is that hunger for excitements. Be ready to deal with it when you choose a partner because it makes you think you are in love when you are only fond of that person. Falling in love takes time, so lust usually comes first in the tree of life and love. When two people accept to date, they start by exhibiting their positive qualities, going for sightseeing, and doing everything to be happy. Starting a relationship this way makes the two involved to bask only on the aftermath of their positive contributions to the growth of their union. At this point, they will misconstrue the love and happiness they share for being in love with each other, even without knowing each other’s repulsive deeds. The truth is that two people in a relationship could never fall in love if they did not have a taste of each other’s off-putting attitudes. Knowledge of those distasteful traits will make them either fulfilled or unfulfilled.
A relationship will fail once one person, or the two involved are unfulfilled. It will succeed only when the two partners are fulfilled. What this means is that if two people who lust after each other get married, their daily interactions must make them familiar with each other. Being familiar with each other is being aware of their positive and negative traits. That is the ultimate point because they will know immediately what obstacle lies ahead, and whether they can cope with it. They will fall in love if they can cope, but they will breakup if they cannot. Their true marriage begins once they are in love, since they will marry for a common goal at this point.