Vulnerability is seen as a weakness, but it can be an advantage in a relationship because it gives a couple the opportunities to show who they are without fear of being hurt or taken advantage of.
In other words, vulnerability is your willingness to allow your partner to see you the way you are without making them feel the need to do anything about it.
The positive side of it is when your partner allows you to be who you are and takes you for it. You do not have to tell them everything about you before they can tell who you are. But they need to work towards being intimate with you to make you to be willing to allow them see every part of you, and what you are capable of.
Someone who is not close to you or who does not have confidence in you may not want to show you everything about them. So, how you relate with your partner will definitely affect how they will lean towards you.
You may like to talk to your partner but your manner of expression and the content of what you say matter a lot.
Your ability to be romantic to your partner in terms of your tone and gestures make positive impacts, which have the effect of stringing them towards you. In other words, using a gentle voice, infectious eye-contacts, and tender strokes can help direct the attention of your partner and make them react in a way beneficial to you.
Give your partner a unique name if you can because how you call and approach them can either put them in a relaxing or tensed mood, depending on how you go about it.
The idea is for both of you to fall in love with each other and become inseparable because only on that platform you can see yourselves as one, and be more inclined to making amends rather than calling it quits in times of disagreements.
To interact effectively, you must first do the following:
Respect means having a high opinion of your partner, or making the person feel valued. It does not mean making them feel stupid around you. It does not mean making them feel the need to change who they are, or the need to become who you want them to be.
Respect has to be about who the person is, not who you wish they were. Your idea about them can affect the way you feel about them. And how you feel about someone can affect how you speak to them, or how you treat them.
The tone of your voice and your choice of words constitute the differences between respect and disrespect. You cannot tell someone to get lost and still claim that you have respect for them. You cannot yell at them and still have the same view that you respect them.
Your ability to attract your partner towards you after every conversation without having to apologize to them for anything is a good indication that you are respectful.
To interact with your spouse effectively, you must first do the followings:
Acceptance is your willingness to take that person for who they are, and what they are able to do because you know who they truly are. This is like knowing that the person is unique and that their deeds are like an expression of how unique they are. With such an idea, you will find them and all that they do very interesting, since you will not find fault in their actions.
Trust is the assurance you have that your partner is who you think he or she really is. It is not who you think they are going to be in the future. Trust balances your mind on a flat base, where you think that your partner will behave in a particular way especially in a way that will make you feel safe and proud, no matter the situation the person is in.
How you interact with your partner can determine how happy or sad both of you are going to be. Wrong interactions between a couple can make them doubt the purpose of their union and if they ever liked each other before they came together.
The idea that you have finally settled down with your dream partner is not enough to give you the happiness you desire in your relationship, but your readiness to do everything possible to keep that person, bearing in mind that you are together to have only the fulfillment that comes when you are happy together. Continue reading →
After an argument with your partner, do not withdraw into a protective but uncomfortable bubble where you say things like “I will never bother you again from this day onward, or stay away from me, okay?”
In such a mode, you will end up keeping malice with your partner for a while, treating him or her with lack of commitment, or detaching gradually by giving your time to something new.
The danger of taking such an ugly stance in your relationship is that you may never be the same again when you step out of your uncomfortable safe-haven. Such behaviour will send the wrong message to your partner, and for that reason the person may withdraw from you. The consequence is a partner who does not care for you anymore.
Be careful with your utterances in times of arguments with your partner. There’s the tendency that your partner will reflect on whatever word you have uttered, and that might help the person to know exactly what he or she is worth in your life.