How do you interact so that your relationship or marriage can move forward? (Part 1)




How you interact with your partner can determine how happy or sad both of you are going to be. Wrong interactions between a couple can make them doubt the purpose of their union and if they ever liked each other before they came together.

What do you say to your spouse daily? Continue reading

Start Anew




I will sing for you.

It’s long overdue.

The lyrics are true.

‘Cause now I’m new.

Tell me what you think too

‘Cause today we can start anew.



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Factors Affecting The Act Of Choosing A Partner (POST 4)

Inability to query things

You may leave things the way they are and settle for your potential partner the moment you allow the excitements you enjoy in your relationship to cloud your intellect. This is when you believe that romance and love are all you need for a successful marriage, and you ignore other important signs that wave the red flag, warning you of the impending danger if you marry your potential partner.

Factors Affecting The Act Of Choosing A Partner (POST 3)

Expectations from family and other close associates

Sometimes, the need to impress people can affect how you choose your partner. No one can tell how you feel in your relationship better than you do, except in extreme cases of abuse where the society feels compelled to intervene and tell you what is right for you. Your relationship may not look great on the inside but does on the outside because of the way you and your potential spouse carry yourselves before people. This may make everyone in your life feel the pleasure and encourage you to get married, in spite of how you really feel inside. You are likely to go ahead with their demands, even though it is not what you want. More so, you may split from someone who is the right life partner for you because of family insistence based on religion, cultural belief, or other factors which you ignored when you began your relationship.

Factors Affecting The Act of Choosing A Partner (POST 2)

Pressure imposed on us by society

Pressure builds up in your daily life when you are afraid of being judged or talked about by the people that know your current situation, especially if you are of age or at the verge of being the last single friend. This makes you rush into a partnership that you might not deem okay if you were not under stress.

The charm and the personality of your potential partner

Charm and personality of your potential spouse are like tinted glasses, which have the tendency to shield your eyes from the harsh rays of the sun, because they can make you weigh your criteria for choosing a spouse wrongly. You may prioritize such qualities like appearance, résumé, and accomplishments, above the quality of your connection with your prospective spouse.