CHOOSING A PARTNER (POST 2)

Choose your partner carefully, because from this decision you will have either happiness or misery. The first thing to bear in mind when you choose a partner is that you are choosing many things: your intimate partner; your talking buddy; your eating companion; your parenting partner; your career counselor; your travel, leisure, and retirement friend; and someone you will see when you are in your best and bad moods. Being aware of that is like being aware of what you want to go into, and it will serve as a guide in any decision you want to take. You can use these ten-point checks to make your choice:

Physical attributes of your prospective partner

You cannot make the right choice if you do not know what you want. Knowledge of what you want will enable you judge correctly when you see what you do not want. Ask yourself, how do I want my partner to look? If you can answer this simple question correctly, then you will be one step closer to what you really want. Do not choose one whose physical attributes do not meet your specification, unless one has other good qualities which can compensate for that. How can you know that one has good qualities when your focus here is on vetting one’s physical attributes if they appeal to you?

CHOOSING A PARTNER (POST 1)

The act of choosing the right partner for a love affair seems easy, but it is indeed the most important thing to get right and the first obstacle we encounter on our route to a love affair.

This obstacle is one of the reasons why most relationships and marriages that kicked off with so much love and affection no longer exist today. Therefore, your choice of partner is like the key you need to start a new car. Each car has a unique key, which can start it and propel it forward. Likewise, each one has a unique person who can make one feel loved first and then give one the strength to love in return. Mark the phrase “feel loved first” because how you feel in your new affair is what determines how you will react to your new partner.

But do you know that most of the time we feel excitements at the beginning of our relationships or marriages? Keep in mind that most of the love affairs or marriages that ended in divorce started with excitement, love, and affection. Now, how do we choose our partner in order to reduce the risk of starting a relationship with the wrong person?