Your personal problems are a part of you, and you have the choice to share them with your partner or keep them to yourself. The truth about keeping them to yourself when you have a partner is that both of you are not close, and that may tell a lot about how happy you are in your relationship.
Sharing can only come about between two or more people who are willing to share; you can’t force it. But what are partners for? Relationship is about two people, and these two people must be able to carry each other along before they can be on the same page and be able to nurture their union in a way that encourages intimacy.
Sharing your problems with someone you love can make you feel good if they listen, empathize with you whether good or bad, and help proffer solutions when needed.
Shutting down your partner or cleverly changing their topic of discussion may look little and simple, but it is as damaging to your relationship as it is hurtful to their feelings.
Listening to whatever your partner has to say before speaking is a good attitude for the growth of your relationship because it will give them the impression that you love, respect, and appreciate them.
To interact effectively, you must first do the following:
Respect means having a high opinion of your partner, or making the person feel valued. It does not mean making them feel stupid around you. It does not mean making them feel the need to change who they are, or the need to become who you want them to be.
Respect has to be about who the person is, not who you wish they were. Your idea about them can affect the way you feel about them. And how you feel about someone can affect how you speak to them, or how you treat them.
The tone of your voice and your choice of words constitute the differences between respect and disrespect. You cannot tell someone to get lost and still claim that you have respect for them. You cannot yell at them and still have the same view that you respect them.
Your ability to attract your partner towards you after every conversation without having to apologize to them for anything is a good indication that you are respectful.
How you interact with your partner can determine how happy or sad both of you are going to be. Wrong interactions between a couple can make them doubt the purpose of their union and if they ever liked each other before they came together.
Be sure that you are truly sorry, and henceforth you are ready to do the right thing, if you must apologize for your wrongs. Saying you are sorry all the time over one problem can mean many things to your spouse:
Firstly, your spouse may think that you are taking him or her for granted and such feelings have the power of making the person to not see anything good in what you are doing because you are not on the same page. The person might take you for granted as well, or react aggressively and an argument might ensue.
Lastly, you may be sending the message that you are not responsible, not good for any sane person, and not open to change, which most people are willing to do for the better way forward when they are with someone they cherish.
Different people can feel different things, but the result of singing “I’m sorry” all the time over one issue usually send wrong signals to your spouse.