Start Anew

 

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I will sing for you.

It’s long overdue.

The lyrics are true.

‘Cause now I’m new.

Tell me what you think too

‘Cause today we can start anew.

 

 

Copyright © 2016 by P. A. Owala

All rights reserved.

Some beautiful ones don’t like stain

Tolu liked to associate with good-looking people. He would never consider friendship with anyone whose looks did not appeal to him. He would move around town with his friends to let everyone know that he had lovely people around him. His definition of ugly was ugly, and that heightened his pomposity and his overzealousness in his inclination to love only those that looked lovely.

One day, he went on a jaunt to the woods, with ten of his friends. He was so drunk that he did not see the small muddy pond, hidden beside a brush, and in the next moment he ended up inside.

“Help me,” he cried out. Only his head and hands were visible, and they were completely soiled with mud.

His friends squirmed backwards in anxiety, confused of what to do.

“Help me, please,” he continued, but none of them was ready to make the first move.

“Try and stay afloat while I go call for help,” one of them said. “It’s a dirty pond and we don’t want to get stained.”

“Help me, I’m dying!”

The young man that responded to the call was dazed as he heard the clamour of the voices of the nine people standing by the pond.

“I thought you needed help,” he said to Tolu, “but now I can see that you don’t. If ten people cannot help you, what can one person do? I’m sorry.” He turned and sauntered away.

Tolu’s eyes widened in pain as it dawned on him that he had substituted inward worth for fine outward appearances.

 

Copyright © 2016 by P. A. Owala

          All rights reserved.

MARRIAGE

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Marriage is what usually comes next once you and your partner feel love for each other. However, being in love does not guarantee that both of you will have a successful marriage, but it will provide a positive base for it to grow in the right path.

You must bear in mind that your partnership persona and relationship desires may be different from the way you are as a single person. This little difference may affect your daily interactions with your spouse positively, or negatively, depending on your mood.

In that case, you must change your idea about doing things yourself to doing things with someone close to your heart if you are really sincere with changing your status.

To do this, you must be ready to share what you have, shower care on your spouse, and prepare yourself to receive whatever he or she offers, even if some are distasteful. In a polite way, talk about the things that you don’t like and you will see the beauty of having a dialogue with your spouse instead of a fight.

CHOOSING A PARTNER (POST 7)

The mindset of your future partner

You cannot know the mindset of your future partner if you do not spend time together. Conversation is the key in this section. You must talk about everything. Talk about your goals, your plans, your daily troubles, and how you care for each other. Check for one’s honesty if you can, temperaments, and how one interacts with one’s family and yours too. The aim of doing this is to know if you have the same personalities. Having the same personalities will enable you to be doing things with one accord. You need to really agree in order to carry your relationship forward smoothly.

CHOOSING A PARTNER (POST 5)

The time factor

No one wants to invest time in anything that is worthless. What that means is that anyone who does not appreciate you from the onset will not want to be there for you. Don’t let the excuse “I am busy” fool you. Taking the decision to start a relationship is also taking the decision to spend time with someone special. So don’t laugh when your prospective spouse does not keep appointments with you because it may mean one thing: you are not special. Solve the time issue first before you make your big decision. Don’t start a relationship with anyone who will not have time for you.

The platform issue

Two people on different platforms cannot do much since they do not have much in common. The fact that they are not on the same level shows that they will grow apart when they come together and try to maintain their stances, unless one of them is ready to join the other on his or her platform, or that both of them are ready to move to a new platform where they can carry each other along from the outset. Never start a love affair with anyone who thinks or acts as if either of you are not on the same level, or that the level he or she occupies is higher than yours, because you will be marginalized and that will lead to unrest in your union.

The equality issue

Love is better served when two people play it with a mindset that they are equal, not when one thinks that the other is a servant. Studies have shown that a master-servant relationship is not the best route to happiness. You cannot give your best in a relationship where you think you are the master (Main Character) and your partner is the servant. More so, you cannot feel fulfilled in a relationship when you think you are being used as a servant because you will feel used. Never start a relationship with anyone who believes he or she is doing you a favour by opting to date you.

You will get more on Sunday.